Think before you act or speak!

It happens all the time, people assume I’m stupid or incapable because I do stuff with my mom. And even yet this happens when I am alone. I am treated like a child and called dear.

It may just be because they don’t know. And that is considerable because most disabled individuals are rarely seen outside especially in my city. Ok so I am not normal and I am not complaining. I could be off and living in a nursing home but guess what? I am not and deal with it.


I am tempted to tell whoever says dear or treats me like a child a little fib, like

My husband was going to come with me but he wanted to work on the deck (I am not married)

I am being deployed so I am wanting to spend time with family (I’ve been out of the military since 2009)

I am on break from my job at the bar down the road (I am not working)

My child took off (I don’t have any children)


So many of these reasons could work but is it really necessary to lie? Wouldn’t it just be a lot easier if everyone learned how to act with disabled individuals?

By no means do we require VIP service at any events. We adapt to the situation and do it as we can.

If that involves having someone with us, does that always mean you are a child? They may be there to help you maneuver around the uneven ground or to make sure you are not pushed out of the way by impatient adults.

Please think before you act or talk. Disabled individuals especially disabled adults do not like to be talked down to. We are perfectly capable and deserve more respect than being called dear or sweetie.

6 thoughts on “Think before you act or speak!

  1. Totally agree with you. I stumbled on a word I’d like to use more (except it sounds like a lisp so I hope another word like it appears). Anyway, the word is Difability. It means one has an ability to do things, but in a different way. I really wish people would clue into this concept and respect how hard we try to do our best and continue to grow instead of acting at their worst and making ignorant statements and actions.


    1. Nice one! I have never heard of that one.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Well I thought I invented it but found it on a search!


  2. Reblogged this on Inspirational Leader and commented:

    Reblogging this because more people need to hear this. Thanks again!


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