No two brain injuries are alike. Because of this, one thing may help one person but not the other ones. There is no manual to treating others with a brain injury. In addition there is always a negative stigma against those. It is just how society is and although we may attempt to change it, it will just return back to the same way of thinking.
With that said, my injury is very unique. I was not expected to do many of the things that I am doing today, in fact my parents were told to put me in a nursing home and get on with their life.
I have dysarthria and when most people hear me, they sometimes think I’m dumber and talk slower and down to me. This is extremely frustrating but I just get through it.
Being in the military I learned perseverance and determination. If I fail at something, I just try and try again until I get it right.
People in the military understand this and are usually more forgiving with me because they know it will change if it was brought up to me.
Lately I have had a few people say that I am self-destructive. Oh let me back up!
My writing skills are actually pretty and considering I have a Master’s in Forensic Accounting with a 3.93 GPA my speech does not match my mind. And because of the brain injury I have less of a filter in my mind.
I am in a position at church where I have to deal with a bunch of varying personalities and “it’s all about me’ attitudes. My brain can’t function through all that and so I have decided it is best to step down.
And because of this missing filter, I turn to social media and complain. I end up deleting what I say but by then people have seen it and I get in trouble. Let me say this, I have NO INTENTION of hurting myself on purpose despite what I write.
I enjoy the flexibility with my job and I can’t really complain about that. 🙂
I’m at a point in my life where I am still trying to figure out where I belong socially. I fit best with the military crowd and fellow cyclists come second. I’m not sure if any of you understand this but that is ok. 🙂
What I am trying to say is guidance may be needed from time to time.
I do what I can do with what I am able to use and how I am able to accomplish it. Many people know not to tell me I can’t do something because they know I will try to. From time to time there will be someone new that doesn’t know this.
Oh did you know I had the highest grade in my College level Calculus class after the accident?
How are you surprising others?